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"is it ok to not have kids"
primeta labai daug nuorodu ta tema. Pvz viena:
https://www.bustle.com/articles/75966-7-reasons-to-not-have-kids-that-are-supported-by-science-because-you-are-never-getting
Ir labai ten logisku dalyku parasyta, pvz:
1. Kids Aren't So Great For Your Relationship - tiesa - prasideda nesutarimai del vaiko.
2. Kids Will Destroy Your Sleep - tiesa. Sako ten kitas vaikas 4 valanda ryte teuzmiega, tai vadinas triuksmauja. Kaip tau i darba eit neissimiegojus. Arba reik turet dideli buta, ir tas vaikas butu vienam kambary kuris yra toli nuo kito kambario, kad nesigirdetu. Vienas is partneriu priziuretu ta vaika, kitas miegotu.
By AMANDA CHATEL Apr 17 2015
I made the decision to not have kids for personal reasons — but there are plenty of bigger picture reasons to not have kids, too. In fact, a little reading on the role that overpopulation plays in issues like global climate change and the Earth’s depleting resources might convince the most baby-crazed among us to not pass on their genes. But you don't have to be an environmental activist to be freaked out by recent research on what happens when you have a kid; plenty of other research reveals that having a child can negatively impact a parent's individual quality of life, too.
And an increasing number of women are looking at those consequences, and deciding against bearing children. Today, almost 50 percent of women do not have kids — which is the highest rate of childlessness among women of childbearing age ever recorded by the U.S. Census Bureau, who first began recording these statistics way back in 1976.
While it’s not anyone's job to tell a woman whether she should or shouldn’t have children, we don't do anyone a service by pretending that having a child is a life change that occurs in a vacuum — becoming a parent has some very real consequences, both for your life and for the whole world. So if you're on the fence about having a kid of your own, or are feeling a lot of pressure from society or even members of your own family who think that everyone should procreate, here are seven scientifically-verified reasons why not having kid can be good for you and the planet.
1. Kids Aren't So Great For Your Relationship
Many couples think that having kids will bring them closer, enhance their relationship and make it stronger, because they now get to bond over a little person that they created. But the facts don't exactly back this line of thinking up. As Dr. Ellen Walker explained in Psychology Today, “Marital satisfaction rates actually plummet after the birth of the first child."
According to the Gottman Relationship Institute, 70 percent of couples experience a “significant slump” in the quality of their relationship within the first three years of the birth of their first child. This can be due to sleeplessness, unrealistic expectations, and the fact that clashing ideas about how to raise a child can sometimes drive a couple apart.
2. Kids Will Destroy Your Sleep
According to psychotherapist Joyce Marter's writing on PsychCentral, most people realize that they won’t be sleeping as much when they have kids, especially during the newborn phase — but they don’t actually realize just how much sleep they'll be missing until they're already parents.
On average, newborns sleep for 16 to 20 hours a day — but that's spread out over the course of an entire day. Babies constantly wake up to feed, have their diaper changed, express gas, or just engage in the business of being a cranky baby. According to sleep specialist Dr. William C. Dement on Healthday.com, it’s during this time that parents lose about two hours of sleep a night overall — but they’re also sleeping for only a couple hours at a time, further degrading the restfulness and quality of their sleep.
Once the baby starts sleeping through the night (usually at around three to five months of age), parents are able to sleep more, but still lose about an hour of sleep a night until the kid turns two. And though parents will get more sleep as their child gets older, they’ll still have occasional nights of sleep interruptions, because kids get sick, have nightmares, and are just plain needy.
According to the National Sleep Foundation, parents can end up with a "sleep debt" that they might not ever be able to catch up with. The level of sleep deprivation caused by having kids can contribute to stress, moodiness, anxiety, and other health problems. This lack of sleep can also take a toll on the relationship — because if one partner feels the other is getting more sleep than them, it can make for an all-out emotional war.
3. Kids Squash Your Sex Life - mazam bute apskritai - su turesi labai tyliai ta daryt.
5. Kids Will Drain Your Bank Account - tiesa, kiek ten girdejau visko jie nori, viska tu tik pirk jiems, nu bet cia gal isauklejimo problema. Gal nereik lepint per daug tiesiog. Mano tevai vaikystej neturejo tiek pinigu ir nepirko tiek visko kiek dabartiniamas vaikams matau kad perka.